random thoughts

"OLD COW, NEW COW"

i woke up this morning, thinking "where did I hear this before?" do you get that itching feeling that you want to know the answer to this question but you were too embarassed to ask anyone at 7:15 am because either a) everyone you know is on this pretty, overexploited, desert island named Boracay b) too blasted from last night’s partying c) attending Summary Rounds in OB-Gyne d) don’t really care.. Being the movie/TV junkie that I am, I searched the net to find my answer (unless I want to be tormented the entire day what movie that is)

If anybody remembers this movie called Someone like you circa 2001… ("oh-kay, the guys go pretty lame movie so what Monica?") But it’s not about the movie per se but the theory that movie revolved on that stuck with me.. So i got this from this website called www.realmoviecritic.com (*just to refresh your memory*)

Story Line: This romantic comedy stars Ashley Judd as Jane Goodale, a talent booker for TV talk show host Diane Roberts (Ellen Barkin). Jane’s a woman who is in and out of relationships and not very happy about it. She is not worrying about the ticking biological clock as much as she is about the possibility of innumerable, meaningless, short-term romantic relationships.

When hot shot executive producer Ray (Greg Kinnear), joins the talk show staff, the cartoon cloud of "attraction" pops on the screen, so we know they are meant to hit it off…at least for awhile.  Soon they are in the "establishing intimacy" phase. After good times in the sack comes the "vocalization of emotions"…the "L" word," love, and Jane and Ray are soon planning to share an apartment together. Jane now has to give notice on her place because her lease is about to end, and Ray has to break things off with his girlfriend of three years, Dee.

Needless to say Ray is either afraid to break up with Dee, or it’s the "C" word of commitment to Jane, or any other woman, that derails the plans that Jane has. Ray starts to avoid Jane and it’s at this stage that she becomes victim of the "new cow" theory. Supposedly a male cow only wants to mate with a female cow once, and 95% of males in the animal kingdom don’t believe in monogamy. Once the new cow has served its purpose, a syndrome is created called the "old cow theory." This rationale helps her deal with their break up.   

Since Jane does not have a place to live, and co-worker Eddie (Hugh Jackman) needs a roommate, she moves in with him. It’s a large loft apartment with two bedrooms and one bath. Eddie is a womanizer who tries to bed a different woman every night. Jane observes this, wondering if he is living proof of the new cow theory, or if there might be something deeper. She also decides to move on professionally.

A call to arms is made, and Jane becomes a columnist with her best friend Liz’ (Marisa Tomei ) magazine. To further theorize, Jane intones  "when, not if, the man comes running back, symbolizes the current cow sob story," as he tries to get "back into the bullpen." Of course, later on Ray does try to make a comeback.

As hard as relationships are to develop and maintain, certain aspects of Someone Like You reminds me of someone like me and others I know. If there is any merit to this goof ball theory, it may be that to sustain a relationship, old cows, both male and female, must constantly reinvent themselves as new cows. Moooooooooooo……

If any of these is to be believed then it means that an old cow, no matter how much you paint it, dress it up will always be OLD COW. no offense. A woman confused by men and searching for a logical explanation behind being dumped… Hence "THE NEW COW THEORY" (Zed, I know you will like this). This theory, based on research done on actual cows, states that bulls will dump their old cow for a new cow after having their way with them.. Once they lose interest, they start looking for other new cows.. MEN ARE LIKE COWS.. ("oh-kay, so ano ba talaga? cows, dogs, or pigs?")  Men, unable to be satisfied with the cow they have, constantly in search of a new fresh cow..

I was in McDonald’s Katipunan at 2:30 am after a girls’ night out at Embassy Cuisine and my good friend whom we shall refer to as JANE (*name changed to protect her true identity) was pouring her heart out to me and dare I say crying like hell (baka isipin ng ibang customers ako ang nagpaiyak ha!)

So over a double cheeseburger and fries (yes, my arteries are clogging at this very moment and although I have sworn off fastfood, this is a special exception to the rule..) I was telling her that a guy shouldn’t make you feel like a very high second priority… Like, I wouldn’t compete with the other girl na lang… well, in my case, let the guy decide… If he wouldn’t stand up for you, then HE IS NOT WORTH YOUR TIME… At the back of our minds, women always have this nagging thought.. "well yeah, my boyfriend can replace me anytime with this hot chick.. everybody is replaceable…"  if you go on thinking that way, you might never realize the true potential of your relationship.. if you think about it, there will always be someone who’s prettier, richer, smarter, better-dressed, sexier than you.. but deal with it! I admit I have a lot of insecurities of my own which is why it is crucial to always have reassurance and communication in a relationship… Because men are wired differently from women… We’re not on the same page, heck not even on the same book…

Old cow, new cow… it’s up to you if this is to be believed…

I dont wanna be an old cow anytime soon…

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